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WILLINGLY ACCEPT HELP

Everybody needs HELP. Spousal support readily comes to mind but since that is not available, it doesn’t mean it cannot come from another source. You’ve got friends and family who care deeply about you and are willing to help. You have to be willing to accept! Social and religious are also fertile grounds for building solid and meaningful relationships. You can also have paid helps like lesson teachers to help with homework, house cleaning services, errand running services. Outsourcing some tasks can help you to relax, rejuvenate and focus on tasks that absolutely needs your attention like going for PTA meetings, football matches, recitals, tucking them into bed and goofing around in bouncing castles eating cotton candy. . Many successful single moms testify to the fact that help and encouragement from friends and family kept them going. They say it takes a village to raise a child, well not a village village…You know what I mean, before you say I said you should go and call all your village people. Just get help sha.

‘If you are a single parent, make friends with others in similar situations and develop friendships with married couples. Counsel with your priesthood leaders. Let them know of your needs and wants. Single parenthood is understood by the Lord.’     

Ezra Taft Benson

BE REASONABLE WITH YOUR EXPECTATIONS

Unfulfilled expectations can be disheartening. So save yourself the heartache and expect less. Don’t go about wishing things would have been much better if you had a partner. You can succeed even on your own. Many have and we are confident you will. Hope is on the other side of despair. You need to stay hopeful that things will get better. As much as you are winging it, you need to stay hopeful that you are doing a good job at least to the best of your capability. Unmet expectations leave you feeling pressured, rushed and aggressive. If you are stilling looking for love, be patient, a man who wants you will want your child too. You are a package deal. If you are not, then just enjoy your life and motherhood.

Single moms: You are a doctor, a teacher, a nurse, a maid, a cook, a referee, a heroine, a provider, a defender, a protector, a true Superwoman. Wear your cape proudly.

Mandy Hale

DON’T SPOIL YOUR CHILD

The common notion is to give the child so much love to make up for the absence of a father, sadly, some moms go overboard. Don’t do this. Beyond raising your child, you are raising a member of society and if s/he is used to getting their way, they may assume that is the standard of life. Your child needs to still be disciplined, set boundaries and learn to say NO. Showering him with excess love won’t make him a better person. Firmness and discipline will.

I’ve been a single parent for a long time. It reminds me of being a waitress. As you walk back to the kitchen, requests come at you from all sides. You’re doing the job of two – you have to be highly organized.     

Cherie Lunghi

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